How did you first meet your husband?
When cars were introduced to the masses, there were no seatbelts. There were no airbags. There was also a huge lack of drivers education and the responsibility was based solely on the parents to teach their child how to drive correctly. This was the same for the internet only a few short years ago. No one was there to tell me not to meet someone online. No one told me I could get murdered.
So when I am telling you every ounce of what I did was equivalent to driving drunk in the dark with no headlights and no seat belt it would be FAR too accurate. The problem with this is it makes me a hypocrite. How can I tell people to be careful when I myself was not? Well, looking back when I met my husband and knowing I could have died made me put on some airbags, require a licence, and certainly know how to change my own tire if I get stranded.
I took the public transit system by myself to meet him
Got into his vehicle, and let him drive me where ever he wanted.
It would have been very easy for him to rape,kill, and dispose of my body somewhere without anyone knowing what the hell happened to me.
Fortunately, I was one of the very lucky people to not end up in a head on collision. I hope for other people to learn from my mistakes, call me a hypocrite, I don’t care, so long as you PLEASE don’t ever do what I did.
Instead of killing me he took me to a local shop with kitties in it, and I never left his side after that. How could I, really?
I mean, kitties.
I think you talked about this, but why was your first meeting with your wife interesting?
Gonna answer this with a reblog from My girls page in just a moment.
My Man and myself have been together for 30 plus years. I find it amazing that I can still just give him a certain look and he knows how I want it. We still have that magic. I wish the same longevity to you and your Girl.
There isn’t a doubt in My mind how My girl and I are going to end up.
Dear SG. I was formally in an abusive relationship hiding under the guise of a BDSM relationship and have recently just started getting back into the scene. A pair of my dominant friends have been helping me get my confidence back, but have identified that I struggle to relax. I know that part of my problem is that I'm still hanging on to some of the past, but I was wondering if you had any tips or tricks for relaxing? Thank you very much in advance - Stressed!
The first thing that comes to mind, aside from the typical ‘start slow’ would be giving up control in small increments.
For example, you could start with the internet and text only based domination.
This allows you to explore and such, but ultimately you are safe and in control.
Then you could branch to skype, giving up some control, but you’re still safe at home and can always switch it off.
When you get around to playing in person, skip the bondage and forceful play at first.
Commands and instructions being used vocally only, and you carry them out, down to being told to torment yourself for example with a vibrator.
Another person it there, telling you what to do, but you are the only one touching you.
Perhaps later they can touch you, but still not bondage, you are still free to move about.
So, slow and stead baby steps.
Keep this in mind as well. Anyone not willing to take this time with you, to help you get that trust back, they aren’t going to be worth your time anyway.
And once you find that person who ‘is’ willing to take their time, help you build your trust, and earn it, who could say where that could take you.
hi SG my Dom just dropped me. he was stringing me along and was using me just to get off and now he's dropped me and I feel absolutely terrible. what do I do?
Thank your lucky stars that you are not longer with some asshole who is stringing you along.
Learn from your past so that hopefully you can avoid the next asshole.
Surround yourself with good friends, family, ice cream, and disney movies in the short, and everything else you love.
When you feel up to it, start exploring again. Get into the community, and do what you can to learn more about yourself, more about what you want out of a relationship.
Once you have that figured out, don’t settle for less.
Hello Sir, my relationship has had some problems lately and I'm looking for advice. Basically, I'm a sub, and my Master and I have been together for about 6 months. Everything was going pretty well until last week, when my Master ignored our safeword. It really scared me and since then I haven't wanted to spend time with him at all because I just can't shake that feeling of fear whenever I look at him now. What should I do? Should I explain to him why it's a big deal?
If a person says no, and another person ignores it, that is rape/abuse.
If a sub uses their safe word, and their partner ignores it, that is rape/abuse.
If I tell someone, “I don’t want you to hit Me.” and they punch Me in the face anyway, guess what? That person doesn’t get My trust, respect, of any spare fucks anymore.
So sure, explain why it’s a big deal, in a letter, from somewhere far away from them, and explain to them why if they come near you again you’ll be calling the cops.
For fucks sake… Supernatural has a safeword!
Dear SG, I've been having some serious problems with my on/off boyfriend lately, worse than usual. In a nutshell I didn't trust him and because I didn't trust him he says he can no longer trust me. I really want to get back with him but it appears as though he is moving on but we are still good friends. I don't know how to earn back this trust but it's been a year now and it was a mistake I've tried very hard to make up for. I was misled and lied to by someone else and I was wrong. Any advice?
you are really going to have to email Me with details. I have no idea what to make of any of that.
god i love your reaction gifs
How do you get rid of leg cramps during sex? Like when my wife is tied up or about to orgasim she gets them and that brings her out of the play. She tenses and shakes to much and that is what cause them
When suffering becomes pleasure,
and pleasure becomes suffering.
When you don’t know if you want to beg for release,
or beg for it never to end.
When your body screams at you,
begging to stop, begging to cum again.
I will hold you there, for as long as I desire,
watching you suffer in uncontrollable agony and ecstasy,
and you will love Me for it.