What is the significance of the collar? From what you know and experienced
To Me, it’s a bit of bondage equipment.
I just don’t put a lot of stock into symbols. My girl and I don’t even wear wedding rings.
To a lot of people, it’s the equivalent of an agreement. Something like a contract or a wedding ring itself.
To each their own.
I do love the way a collar looks around My girls neck.
how do you become a trainee
If you really want it, you take the time to go though the blog and find the information that has been posted multiple times. ;-)
If you aren’t that patient and persistent, then perhaps you aren’t that interested.
Could You do like a 12 Days of X-Mas challenge? Or something like that?
What do you think of your wife's shaved head?
I’m having a hard time not constantly rubbing it.
Bonus, it takes her way less time to get ready to go now. ;-)
she wants to feel used.
she wants to be afraid.
she want to be humiliated.
she wants to be put in her place.
Look at that little smile…
Who says subs aren’t in control?
she is getting everything she wants.
Hi there, I need some advice and you were honestly the only person I could think to come to. I'm in an online relationship with a lovely Dom. We live a few hours apart but speak EVERY day. We plan on meeting up soon and we're both so excited because we openly say that we've fallen for each other. But I checked out his fetlife page and he's posted things about wanting to meet up for 'local gang bangs' with strangers. I'll be honest I feel kind of betrayed by him, what should I do? Thanks, H x
Perhaps the two of you have different expectations. Talk to them about it.
Let them know that you are uncomfortable with that style of play. Simple as that.
Some people are into groups and some aren’t. For some, that type of play is just par for the course and he may have not considered that it could affect you in a negative way.
Hi there :) First of I really like your blog it's full of great advice and interesting pieces. Secondly I have a question: Do you know of good websites that deal with safety/health issues that come with BDSM. Aside for the more "obvious" things (like breath play is dangerous b/c you could choke your partner) a lot of the stuff I've found was largerly your typical internet half-truth. Any help would be welcome :)
I don’t honestly know of many sites that are still around, though a quick google search found this list.
Also, a quick search on Fetlife resulted in several groups dedicated to safety.
How does a lesbian sub go about finding a partner that meets her needs both in the bedroom and in a relationship? I'm on fetlife but even discounting age differences and location it's a small market, once those factor in, there's exactly zero candidates.
The same way anyone goes about looking for a partner that meets their needs both sexually and emotionally.
With a lot of patience.
Try not focusing on it. Get into your local groups, online groups, make friends, do research, and just live your life.
Do your best each day to learn some new things, to better yourself, and to have fun.
When you least expect it, someone is going to message you about your profile, or introduce you to a friend of theirs, and the next thing you know you will be chatting away with them until the early morning as if you had known each other all your life.
Then, well, who knows…
My Master is a well experienced, well respected, highly sought after serious D/s practioner . He is a hard core sadist who is heavily into control. I'm His rare gem.I dont doubt his value of me. I haven't quite reached his level of play but I'm progressing rapidly. I'm miserable in one area - frequency in sex. When He does have sex with me its amazing but its averaging only once every 4-6 wks. It starts to drive me emotionally crazy around the 4 wk mark. I'm so miserable. What is going on?? HElp
There are a lot of questions here.
Have you talked to him about this problem?
Is it a difficulty resulting from distance or scheduling?
Is orgasm control factoring into this?
It’s a simple matter of wanting more sexual attention than you are currently receiving. The question is, why and how do you fix it.
Talk to your partner.
When is hitting someone or being hit, or beat up upon, wrong?
When it is non consensual.
Aside from that, it would be up to the partners that are playing.
Some like it rather extreme, and some, like Me, prefer a more sensory type of impact play.
It is up to both partners to communicate to each other where their interests and limits are to make sure it is enjoyable to both.